Ask Someone Else's Mom by Susan Writer

Husband Keeps Pushing Houses Near His Mom's

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: Even though I get along pretty well with my mother-in-law, I really don’t want to live too close to her, and my husband keeps pushing our realtor to look in her neighborhood. For one thing, I don’t like the style of mid-century ranchers that are mostly what comes up on the market. Also, I don’t want to be so close to his folks that they can come over whenever they want. The only real plus is that the general area is a good commute for both of us. But is that enough to live the life of “Everybody Loves Raymond”? --- TOO CLOSE FOR COMFORT

DEAR TOO CLOSE FOR COMFORT: Sometimes there are advantages to having close family nearby, especially if young children are in the picture. But I also get your need for a little healthy distance.

Talk to your husband openly about your reservations, and also listen to his arguments in favor of the proximity. Perhaps you and your realtor could come up with a wider radius that offers a similar commute time, but also enough distance to allow you privacy and independence.

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