Ask Someone Else's Mom by Susan Writer

Friend Pushes for Valentine's Day Blind Date

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My boyfriend and I broke up just before Christmas. It was a crappy move on his part, especially since I was completely blindsided.

It’s only been a few weeks, but I already have friends trying to fix me up with someone new. One of them has a guy who is up for a Valentine’s Day blind date. I don’t know this guy at all, and while I’ve seen pictures of him and he looks fine and is supposed to be a really good guy, I just don’t know if I’m ready to be back out there. But I also hate the idea of being alone on Valentine’s Day for the first time for a while.

Do you think I should take up my friend’s match-up offer? --- NOT SURE IF I’M READY YET

DEAR NOT SURE IF I’M READY YET: Depending on how long and how involved your last relationship was, I can see how it would be difficult to jump back into dating after such a relatively short period of time. I also think there’s nothing wrong with putting your toe in the water, if for no other reason than to see if you really are ready to get out there again.

If you can make it absolutely clear that this Valentine’s Day blind date comes with no strings attached, you might find you enjoy having a nice evening out. It’s an approach that takes some of the pressure off your date as well.

Need advice? Please send your questions to Someone Else’s Mom at