Ask Someone Else's Mom by Susan Writer

Aunt Bemoans the Death of the Formal Thank You Note

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: When I was a kid in the 60s, I remember my mother drilled into us that no gift should go unacknowledged, even if it meant calling Great-aunt Carol, who was blind and nearly totally deaf!

I can’t tell you the last time any of my grown nieces and nephews or any of their kids did more than confirm they received a gift I sent them. I usually send checks, so I know when they get cashed, but I have yet to get even a thank you email or text, much less a thank you note in the mail.

I know this holiday season will be no different, and I know I can’t say anything to my nieces and nephews, nor would I, but could you please remind your readers how much such a little thing as a thank you note can mean? --- WHAT HAPPENED TO MANNERS?

DEAR WHAT HAPPENED TO MANNERS?: I think many people feel as you do, especially since in the age of constant, immediate communication it doesn’t take much time or effort to officially register appreciation for a gift. Neglecting to do so gives the appearance that the recipient believed they deserved what you sent them.

So, I join with you in hoping people of all ages will take the time to send their thanks for gifts received, not only just during the holidays, but all the syear through.

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