Ask Someone Else's Mom by Susan Writer

New Wife Wants Out of House Husband Shared with Ex

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: I don’t think it’s too much to ask, but my husband keeps telling me to just wait. For the last year and a half we have been living in the house he and his ex-wife bought. Her decorating tastes are totally different from mine, and the house is not near either of our jobs.

I keep trying to show my husband houses I find online that would cost less than this one and I know we can get more than enough money to buy something different when we sell it. The same house two blocks away just sold for almost $50,000 more than the houses I am looking at.

What can I do to get him to see that there’s no reason to stay here? --- HE WON’T BUDGE

DEAR HE WON’T BUDGE: Maybe it’s time to consult a realtor to get accurate information on the current real estate market in your area. Gather as much solid data as you can and start visiting open houses in both your neighborhood as well as your target areas.

In the meantime, start replacing some of the decor in your home with items in your own taste that you can relocate when the time comes.

Taking some concrete steps might help convince your husband you mean business.

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