Ask Someone Else's Mom by Susan Writer

New Husband Fancies Himself Handier Than He Is

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My new husband is one of the coolest, sweetest, nicest guys I know. He has so much going for him ─ except when it comes to being handy around the house.

Our house isn’t exactly a fixer-upper, but it is older and already we have needed to make some repairs, like replacing a garbage disposal, fixing a toilet, replacing a ceiling fan, and installing a new garage door opener. My husband decided to tackle all those jobs, and more. The end result was that we had to hire professionals to come out and fix his fixes.

I don’t want to crush him, but I just don’t know what to do to keep him from DIYing us broke. Suggestions appreciated. --- WIFE OF MR. NOT HANDY

DEAR WIFE OF MR. NOT HANDY: The next time he proposes to take on a home repair himself, gently reminding him of his track record might be a good place to start. While none of us likes to be told we’re aren’t as good at something as we fancy we are, sometimes we need to hear it, for our own good and that of those around us ─ not to mention how expensive it gets to constantly to throw good money after bad.

Check around to see if any of the local hardware/building supply stores hold seminars on different topics taught by professionals. Even if the offerings aren’t directly related to the next home project, seeing how things are done by the pros might help set your husband on a better course.

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