Ask Someone Else's Mom by Susan Writer

Dad Doesn't Hide His Feelings Towards Son-in-law

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My husband and I have been married for a while now, and from the time we started going together, my father has made it clear he doesn’t like my husband. It’s been a while since he has gone out of his way to openly make my husband feel uncomfortable, but after all this time, you can still feel a definite tension whenever the two of them are in a room together, and my father never stops with the passive-aggressive comments.

I try to ignore it, and so does my husband most of the time, but sometimes it’s more than he can take, and he pushes back, and it can get ugly.

I’m at the point where it’s just easier to avoid my dad all the time. It hurts me that I have to do that, but it hurts me even more that he constantly disses the man I picked to share the rest of my life with. Am I wrong to avoid my father? --- DAUGHTER CAUGHT IN THE MIDDLE

DEAR DAUGHTER CAUGHT IN THE MIDDLE: The only slightly encouraging thing you mentioned is that your dad has backed off a little bit, and maybe that will continue to be the case. However, until you see real evidence of a softening in his adverse feelings toward your husband, and until he can keep his thoughts to himself, I think you’re right in avoiding situations where the two men are together.

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