Ask Someone Else's Mom by Susan Writer

LW Unsure About Extending Shower Invite to Faraway Relative

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My maid of honor asked for a list of must-have guests for my bridal shower. I come from a large family, most of which live nearby here in Central Florida, but one cousin is married to a Canadian and they live in Alberta.

I am on the fence about inviting her, because I don’t want her to feel like she has to travel down here for the shower and then in a few weeks again for the wedding. One of my aunts said I should as a courtesy. What do you think? --- FLORIDA BRIDE-TO-BE

DEAR FLORIDA BRIDE-TO-BE: By all means, I say send her an invitation. She may surprise you and be able to attend, and if not, you won’t run the risk of offending her when she finds out she didn’t get invited, especially if all the other female relatives did.

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