Ask Someone Else's Mom by Susan Writer

Roommate Who Lost Job Hasn't Told Roomie Yet

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My company cut my job two weeks ago. I had been with them long enough to get three month’s severance pay and once that runs out, if I haven’t found another job, I will apply for unemployment.

Between those two things and my being really careful with my spending, I should be able to continue paying my share of the expenses in the apartment I share with another woman. The thing is, we are not at all that close, and I have not told her about my losing my job yet. I don’t want her to panic about the rent and everything, especially since I can cover those things.

Is there anything wrong with not telling her? We hardly see each other when I’m working, so I don’t know how much it really matters? --- OUT OF WORK, NOT CASH

DEAR OUT OF WORK, NOT CASH: If your living arrangement is a strictly business one, then there’s less reason to share details of your life with your roommate. However, if it looks like your time unemployed will drain you to the point of not being able to uphold your share of expenses, you should let her know your situation so she can decide what she needs or wants to do to protect herself financially.

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