Ask Someone Else's Mom by Susan Writer

How Formal to Go for an "Informal" Wedding?

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My husband and I have been invited to the wedding of his boss. It will be a second marriage for the groom, but not for the bride, who is a few years younger.

The venue is a very formal, upscale restaurant, but the groom keeps insisting they’re keeping it casual. I’m just afraid that’s the “guy” view, and not what the bride and her family have in mind.

How do we know how to dress for this mixed message wedding? Since it’s my husband’s boss, we want to get it right! --- TO DRESS OR NOT TO DRESS

DEAR TO DRESS OR NOT TO DRESS: It’s possible you might be able to get a feel from the invitation about how formal or informal the affair is going to be. If the invite is traditional, the safer bet may be to go more formal; if it’s fun and very contemporary, a little less dressy may be the uniform of the day, but personally, I’d rather err on the side of being a bit overdressed than underdressed, especially at what is indirectly a work event for your husband.

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