Ask Someone Else's Mom by Susan Writer

Valentine's Day Engagement Not on the Menu

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: I have been dating my girlfriend for two years now and we are definitely beginning to think long-term.

Because of several things going on in my life right now, I am not in a position to propose, but I intend to by the end of the year. I just really think my girlfriend is expecting a ring for Valentine’s Day, and I know she is going to be disappointed. Should I talk to her about this, or just let it go until I can afford to do it all right? --- SO CLOSE, BUT NOT THERE YET

DEAR SO CLOSE: If you have discussed where your relationship is heading ─ and I do mean discussed, not just assume you’re on the same wavelength ─ then the way to go may be letting her know you have plans to make things official, but they won’t be happening on February 14th.

It’s all about communication, and the better you get at it, the better your chances are for making a successful life together.

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