Ask Someone Else's Mom by Susan Writer

Girlfriend's Tastes Are Too Rich for Boyfriend's Wallet

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: I am with a girl who comes from a richer background than my own. Her parents are both doctors and you could fit three of my parents’ houses in hers. We met at school and I think I am the first guy she has dated who is not country club-ready.

It isn’t that she asks me to drop a lot of money on her, but I always feel like if I don’t, she’ll walk. How do I draw the line without losing the girl? --- MIDDLE CLASS BOYFRIEND

DEAR MIDDLE CLASS BOYFRIEND: You shouldn’t have to go broke to impress anyone. Give the girl some credit. If you’ve been together long enough to have visited each other’s homes and families, she would have to be pretty dense not to notice the differences.

When you’re together, be yourself and keep to a reasonable budget. If it turns out she demands more than you’re comfortable being able to spend, then you have to consider if she’s in the relationship for you, or rather for what she can get out of you.

Need advice? Please send your questions to Someone Else’s Mom at