Ask Someone Else's Mom by Susan Writer

Who's the Lingerie Really For?

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: Every year, since we’ve been together, my husband gets me some sexy lingerie for Valentine’s Day. I suppose it’s a sweet gesture, but I can’t help wondering who it’s really for, him or me? --- JUST WONDERING

DEAR JUST WONDERING: If you both enjoy the gift, does it really matter?

Maybe your husband is trying to treat you to something he knows you might not splurge on for yourself, but that makes you feel attractive. It could also be his shorthand way of reminding you how sexy he thinks you are.

Whatever the motive, say, “Thank you,” and enjoy.

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