Ask Someone Else's Mom by Susan Writer

LW Puzzles Over Whether Coworker Is Truly Nice or a Suck-up

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: It may be because I’m from Boston and my coworker is a Midwesterner, or it could be she is the biggest suck-up ever, but I’m just having a hard time believing anyone can be so nice with our demanding, often nasty boss.

Is there a way to tell if someone is genuine or not? --- IS SHE OR ISN’T SHE?

DEAR IS SHE OR ISN’T SHE?: It’s good that you give your coworker the benefit of the doubt based on regional personality differences. But this may be a case of watch and wait. If she’s the real thing, my guess is it’ll be apparent over time. If not, eventually even the best-applied veneers tend to crack, and a less than sunny side may show through.

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