Ask Someone Else's Mom by Susan Writer

Newlyweds Weasel Out on Their Part of Wedding Expenses

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: When our daughter got married last year, she and her then fiancé agreed to pay a third of the expenses of the wedding. Granted, they paid for the gown, the invitations, and some of the decorations, but that left us paying for far more than two-thirds of the cost.

My wife doesn’t want me to push for more money, but I’m going on the principle of the thing. I think they need to keep to their agreement, don’t you? --- STUCK WITH THE BILL

DEAR STUCK WITH THE BILL: I’m with you that they need to make good on the agreement. It’s possible they think they’ve covered their portion and need to be given an idea of what was put out by the time the party was over.

If the newlyweds are facing a lot of expenses right now, you might consider setting up a repayment plan that isn’t too scary for them. Down the road, you could choose to forgive some part of the debt to keep your wife happy, but a little effort ─ at the least ─ needs to be made by your daughter and new son-in-law.

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