Ask Someone Else's Mom by Susan Writer

Daughter's Friend Seen Shoplifting

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: I was out with my teenage daughter and one of her friends shopping recently, and I happened to see my daughter’s friend slip a pair of earrings she pulled off the display card into her purse. She did it so quickly and easily that I can only guess this wasn’t the first time.

This truly disturbed me, but I don’t know what to do about telling my daughter what I saw. For one thing, if her friend is stealing, how do I know my daughter isn’t too? Do I bring it up to my daughter, or just let it slide? --- UNHAPPY WITNESS

DEAR UNHAPPY WITNESS: It seems to me that saying something about what you saw to your daughter serves two purposes. First, it lets her know what her friend’s up to; second, it puts your daughter on notice that you’re not entirely clueless, even if she hopes you are.

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