Ask Someone Else's Mom by Susan Writer

Mom’s Hearing Becoming a Problem

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: I really believe my mom is losing her hearing. She just turned 63 and everyone in the family has had issues with what’s gotten lost in translation when talking with her. We keep trying to convince her it’s time to get her hearing checked, but she won’t do anything about it. I don’t get why she doesn’t want to help herself. What more can we do to help her? --- MY MOM IS DEAF TO GOING DEAF

DEAR MY MOM IS DEAF TO GOING DEAF: I don’t know anyone who’s happy to think of losing the things we do as we age, and it’s natural to pretend we’re physically better-off than we are. Denial is a strong placebo, but it’s just that, a placebo.

Your mom might be more responsive if the suggestion to get her hearing checked came from someone outside the family. Maybe an old friend, someone who’s inclined to be more empathetic towards her situation, could be induced to talk to her, especially if that friend has also noticed a decline in your mother’s hearing.

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