Ask Someone Else's Mom by Susan Writer

Couple Struggles with Different Diets

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: Ever since I was in middle school I have struggled to maintain what I consider a healthy weight. I gain weight really easily if I am not careful. My girlfriend is just the opposite. She can eat anything and even if she doesn’t work out for weeks it doesn’t show.

While I’m at work, I’m good about what I eat. It’s when I get home that I have a harder time since my girlfriend moved in. No matter how much I hint, she keeps buying food I should not eat, and cooking meals that are way off my meal plan. She seems so happy to be taking care of our dinners, and I don’t believe she has to only eat the same things I do, but I just cannot keep eating this way – not to mention the snack foods she buys and has around the house.

I know having two separate meals every night is nuts, but I’m not sure what else to do. Any ideas? --- WATCHING MY WEIGHT

DEAR WATCHING YOUR WEIGHT: Clearly your hints aren’t working. Be direct with your girlfriend so she can hopefully gain a better understanding of how to support your dietary program. Start openly discussing what works best for you and how you can adapt your dueling diets to each other’s needs. Take a more active role in meal planning. Go food shopping together. Alternate who does the cooking. And make it a point to eat out once in a while so you can each indulge in a dish the other might not choose.

As to the snack foods, put them out of sight and encourage your girlfriend to enjoy them at work or when you’re not around.

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