Ask Someone Else's Mom by Susan Writer

Parents' Visits Are Too Big for a Small Apartment

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: Every year my parents come to visit me, my aunt, and my grandmother, as we live close to each other.

I am 32 years old and live with a roommate in a small two-bedroom/2.5 bath apartment.

My issue is that when they come to visit, my parents always expect that they will stay with me and take my bedroom. Because of this I end up sleeping on the couch for a week. If I was able to afford my own place with a spare bedroom this would not be an issue. As it is, they would be insulted if I asked them to get a hotel, and due to my grandmother’s and aunt’s hoarding tendencies, they are unable to stay with them.

What are my options? --- STUCK ON THE COUCH

DEAR STUCK ON THE COUCH: You didn’t mention how your roommate feels about this annual visit. How it affects him or her might provide you with a good argument against even temporarily doubling your home’s population.

Another thing to consider is perhaps your parents wouldn’t feel the same about staying in a hotel if you offered to stay with them, sharing the cost of a two-bedroom suite.

You could also explore short-term vacation rentals like Airbnb, HomeAway, or FlipKey. Depending on where you live, some of these turnkey accommodations may be more expensive than a hotel, but if you sell it to your parents as a mini-vacation for you too, it might be more appealing to them.

If these options are too costly or not viable for other reasons, I encourage you to grin and bear the visit for the week Mom and Dad are in town. Being with you, in your own home, may be something they look forward to and enjoy.

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