Ask Someone Else's Mom by Susan Writer

Husband Cheaps Out on Halloween

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: When I was a kid, my mom and dad always made sure Halloween was a big, fun deal for our family. My husband comes from a family with religious beliefs that Halloween is a bad thing, even a form of devil worship. Now that our oldest is old enough to go trick-or-treating, and even though my husband doesn’t still share his parents’ beliefs about the holiday and is okay with my taking our daughter out, he doesn’t think we should hand out candy. I really think he’s just being cheap, not principled. I’m planning on taking our daughter trick-or-treating, but I feel funny about no candy being given at our house. Should I give into guilt and keep our daughter home and that way at least I could hand out some candy? --- WOULD-BE TRICK-OR-TREAT MOM

DEAR WOULD-BE TRICK-OR-TREAT MOM: I say share your version of Halloween tomorrow night with your daughter and take her out trick-or-treating. If your husband wants to stay home and not answer the door, that’s up to him. You could try leaving a bowl of candy out so that at least some of the neighborhood kids get a treat. Believe it or not, I’ve seen this honor system offering work quite well in a several different neighborhoods when I was in the trick-or-treat mode with my own kids.

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