Ask Natalie by Natalie Bencivenga

Breakup Guy Needs Advice

DEAR NATALIE: I stink at breakups and need help. I am in this relationship with a great woman, but it's been a few months now, and I'm bored. This is a pattern for me. As soon as I get what I want, I'm over the relationship. I feel bad breaking up with her for seemingly no reason, but I find myself uninterested in seeing her more than once a week. Can you give me some advice as to how to break up with her and how NOT to keep doing this? I feel bad, and I'm in my 40s now. I know this isn't healthy. -- BAD BREAKUP GUY

DEAR BAD BREAKUP GUY: Newsflash: Despite what society (and our mothers) tells us, not everyone is made for relationships. You may just be one of those people. Tell your current flame that you need to take some time apart because you need to work on yourself. She will most likely roll her eyes at this but accept it nonetheless. And then take my advice: no dating. Do some soul searching instead. Later on when you feel ready to date again, do so lightly. Keep it casual unless someone really tugs at your heart. Maybe then you will discover it's all about the connection, not the quantity.

Natalie's Networking Tip: Power is in the spoken word. Remember why you are networking and speak about what you need. When you put it out there, you may be surprised at how quickly people are willing to help! 

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(This column was originally published by the Pittsburgh Post-Gazette.)