Ask Natalie by Natalie Bencivenga

Ignore Your Boyfriend’s Negativity

DEAR NATALIE: I started working a new side business venture with a really amazing group of like-minded people, but my boyfriend is not supportive AT ALL. He doesn't think what I am doing is going to be profitable, and he doesn't have anything nice to say. We have been together for three years, and I've never seen this side of him. I'm not sure how to walk this line of making him happy but also doing what I feel in my gut will help me. Any advice? -- Biz Gal

DEAR BIZ GAL: Ever notice when you try something new or "out of the box" how quickly others are to pounce on you and talk you out of it? Our society preaches "free thinking," but in actuality many of us walk the line that the person in front of us has worn into the ground. I love the fact that you are venturing into new territory and taking risks! It's exciting and scary and makes you feel alive. If you feel in your heart and gut that you are making the right decision, go for it. Your partner (most likely) is trying to be protective out of fear. But guess what? Fear never got us anywhere. It doesn't change the world, and it doesn't change lives. It prevents people from living up to their full potential and keeps them stuck doing things they don't want to do. If your boyfriend can't get onboard, just stop talking about it with him until you can show him some positive results. Use his fear as a motivator to show him what CAN be done with positivity and a strong work ethic.

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(This column was originally published by the Pittsburgh Post-Gazette.)