DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I have been hanging out with this girl 7 times now with her doing the majority of the asking not me. She has canceled meet ups before quite a bit so it could have be more than 7 ti... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m a 22-year-old, straight single woman. I’m still a virgin because I was raised in a religious family and because, in order to save money, I’ve been living at home while attendin... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: How do I navigate the earlier stages of dating if I am a more “submissive” guy personality-wise if you will? It’s not that I’m a total pushover who’s looking for someone to dictate... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: My girlfriend’s autistic brother is ruining everything. He makes her cry, and tries to break us up. He’s an a--hole to everybody including his parents. I called him fat once and he... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m an 18-year-old sexually inexperienced male who has been pondering some questions about the nature of sexual and romantic attraction; and whether it’s purely superficial.... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I met a man at a cafe whom I noticed since I go to this cafe each weekend and so does he. I observed him and I assumed he would not like me and I stayed away and looked at magazine... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve had a pretty rough run of my love life for the past 10+ years. My work and social life hasn’t been much better, and recently I made the decision to go back to school to get a ... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve been with my boyfriend 3 and a half years and sex has really changed this last year. He always wants oral first and sometimes this goes on a while, but I never get oral myself... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: After being in a 2-month rebound relationship in 2021, I’ve learned that it has strongly and negatively affected how I view people fresh out of relationships, and has given me a un... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I am a 30 year old male, and I am about a year and a half removed from a 4 year relationship that I’m still healing from. I just moved to Spain for a fresh start and I’m seeing a lo... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: My boyfriend and I have been happily together for a really long time. We are honestly best friends. But because we’ve been together so long, I feel like the spicy and romantic spark... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve taken a break from dating for a while, for many reasons (frustration, then pandemic, then rebuilding mental health, then keeping busy, etc.), but I think I’m just about ready t... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I am a straight woman (I like men) and in my 40’s and I would like a relationship and it’s very difficult to meet men. So, I looked online and I can’t find a dating app or website t... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve always wondered if there was a difference between feeling sexual attraction and lust. I’m 30 years old, and since I was 15 I’ve always had a porn addiction. I think it has take... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m writing in because I’ve hit a wall in dating and I’m not sure what to do about it. I (32/cis/man) have been on and off dating apps for the past handful of years. I recently went... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m 57 years old, never had a long-term relationship. I’m gay, so that creates a dating-pool problem right there. I’ve been in love a few times, falling hard and fast, and have had ... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m writing to you as I have been struggling with this dilemma and really need some perspective! I really can’t talk about this with anyone else.... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I have a girl I’ve sort of adopted, and she is having sex with the men in my friend circle and they all have girlfriends including my ex and my boyfriend she had become friends with... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I (late 20s NB) got laid on Valentines! Hell yeah! It was with a good friend, and the experience was quite nice: we were both very happy with it. But in the time since, I’ve realize... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I am a 23-year-old male (by the time you read this though, I might be 24) who will be graduating from undergrad May 2024. I’m writing to you because my “college experience” has been... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m a 26-year-old woman with limited relationship experience. My only relationship occurred when I was 16 years old. Since then, I’ve been on dates and experienced one-sided infatua... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I was previously in a two year toxic relationship. My ex cheated on me and it was me continuously chasing something I knew would never love me the way I loved him. I dealt with cont... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I just can’t seem to find a fully-grown, functioning adult of a man. Instead I always seem to attract man children who take advantage of my kindness and still expect to be coddled a... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: So, my bf and I have been dating for, maybe… 4 months. I was happy because this is the first normal, stable relationship I’ve had. And then one day, he decided he wanted to be poly.... more