DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m a 26-year-old woman with limited relationship experience. My only relationship occurred when I was 16 years old. Since then, I’ve been on dates and experienced one-sided infatua... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I was previously in a two year toxic relationship. My ex cheated on me and it was me continuously chasing something I knew would never love me the way I loved him. I dealt with cont... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I just can’t seem to find a fully-grown, functioning adult of a man. Instead I always seem to attract man children who take advantage of my kindness and still expect to be coddled a... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: So, my bf and I have been dating for, maybe… 4 months. I was happy because this is the first normal, stable relationship I’ve had. And then one day, he decided he wanted to be poly.... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m 22M and I have a crush on a woman (23F) from my university and we were quite good friends when, for some reason, I started developing feelings for her after I broke up with my ... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I hope this email finds you well. I’ve been an avid follower of your insightful advice on relationships and dating, and I find your perspective immensely valuable. I am reaching out... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m reaching out to you regarding a situation that is impacting my social life at law school. I’m a 32 year-old-male, an older student, and the issue regards some of my former frien... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I have a weird feeling and I want to explain this. I’m casually dating a girl who I really enjoy and I think about her a lot. That’s good right? Well, when we were talking about our... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I think I know what my issue is, and that it is unfixable, but I’m taking some advice from others, and I saw your advice to others, where I thought I’d give the advice a chance.... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Not sure if you’ve gotten these sorts of questions before, just found your site – but I have what I think might be a slightly different question from most.... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I find myself in a bit of a weird place. I’ve just ended a long stint as a caretaker for an ill parent, and with this newfound lease on life, I’ve been putting myself out there a lo... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I am writing to you, since I have not seen this issue covered yet in your archives and maybe you can give me a solid advice as you always do. There is a huge chance that in a few mo... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: My wife and I have engaged in the hotwife (specifically stag/vixen) lifestyle on and off since 2019. We have been married for 14 years as of December. I (36) am a military veteran a... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve (25, cis male) been seeing my girlfriend (29) for over a year now. I met her family this past holiday and we all got along well. Her family even invited me to spend time with t... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: So there is this girl I have been dating officially for 2 months, I am 23 and she’s 18. We fell in love and we clicked after months me pursuing and waiting for her.... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m 28 & ready to start dating, but have never had a date… like, ever. Reason: Self-esteem issues caused by childhood trauma. I’m over it & ready to start dating.��I have a quite a ... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: How do I express/word my difficulties and pain with constantly struggling to find friendships or dates with intimacy and feeling pain, skin/touch starvation, and feeling undesirable... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I need your advice, please. I’ve met a man at the religious outing (he is in his 50’s). Divorced 3 times but no kids. I was never married before. He had a heart attack twice as too ... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve recently started dating a man we’ll call him “Jake” for privacy reasons. On paper, Jake seems perfect but there are a couple things about him that give me reservations about ha... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m a bi man in an open relationship/ethically non-monogamous relationship with another man, and I’m working on setting up a Tinder profile to try and make some friends & find some ... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I identify myself as a sex-averse heteroromantic asexual. To describe my experience the best: I am a cis gender 33 year old male who enjoys quite a lot a female company. In other wo... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: About four years ago, I had a nasty breakup with someone who, if I’m being honest, I hadn’t been in a relationship very long. And honestly. it was probably best for us both. We brou... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve been reading your website articles for some time and I would firstly like to thank you for the advice I’ve been seeing on here. This has given me an idea of where to start and ... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I have a more general question about men and dating advice for women: where is the line between being intrusive and showing interest?... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: My girlfriend of 4 months is going to be going to a bachelorette trip in Miami with a few of her girlfriends. I’ve never met these friends as they are high school friends; of course... more
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Been enjoying your articles on virginity and low self-esteem in men. I’m 24 and admittedly a late bloomer when it comes to romance. Never so much as kissed a girl my age and lack of... more