DEAR HARRIETTE: I recently graduated college, and I finally found a job in my field. After eight long months, I can finally say that I have a job doing what I want to do. The only problem is that my dream job requires me to relocate. I'd have to leave Ohio behind and embark on a new journey to Washington, D.C.
Although I am a college graduate, I didn't stay on campus. I lived with my parents all four years, so leaving for D.C. would be my first time living on my own. My parents are worried and hesitant about me taking the job because I've always lived with them. They say that it wouldn't be as nerve-racking if I left home but stayed in Ohio.
I'll admit that I'm anxious and nervous as well, but I honestly feel as though it's time for me to spread my wings. How will I ever become fully independent if I never leave home? I want to figure out how to make it on my own. This is my dream job in the field I studied in college. Who knows when another opportunity like this will come along?
How do I convince my parents to let me go? I understand that it's difficult because I'm their only child, but I need to leave and be on my own at some point in my life. I don't want to miss this opportunity because they're afraid to let me go. I have faith in my degree and myself. -- Ready to Leave, Cleveland
DEAR READY TO LEAVE: Leaving home is a huge step toward independence; in your case, it's exacerbated by your being an only child. Stay strong and follow your dream. Yes, this will likely be hard for you and your parents. Have some solace knowing that your parents will not be alone. They have each other. You will be fine because you have the values they taught you and your plans for your career. As long as you stay focused on your goals, you will be able to navigate your life and learn to make independent decisions.