DEAR HARRIETTE: I have been having an affair for the past few months, and it has been very exciting. I know I'm not supposed to do it, obviously, but I have been very discreet. I do not want to hurt my wife's feelings, and I don't expect this to last long. It's just fun and a distraction from all of the stuff that has been going on at home of late.
So, here's the thing. My son told me the other day that I have been talking in my sleep. He wanted to know who Gloria is. I was shocked. That's her name! He said he heard me talking and came in the room and shook me until I stopped talking. Now I'm worried that my wife may have heard me. Should I tell her? What should I do? -- Sleeptalking, Denver
DEAR SLEEPTALKING: What you need to do is handle your business. Your subconscious is telling the truth for you. Now it's time for you to correct your truth so that you can sleep at night, you stop dishonoring your marriage and you clean up your act. Yes, that means it is time to cut things off with Gloria. While that will not be easy to do, it is the one decision that can help you sleep soundly.
Do you need to confess all to your wife? Not now. Devastating your wife with news of your affair is not a solution to your problem. Fix it. End it. Recommit to your marriage. Be the best husband you can be. Refocus your lens on your family. If Gloria comes up, do not lie, but stop thinking about her. Think and dream about your wife.
(Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Universal Uclick, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.)