DEAR HARRIETTE: I have been going through a divorce for four years. My future ex-husband and I fight about everything. If it's not child support, it's living situations or seemingly anything. My best friend Jenna's marriage fell apart at the same time as mine, and her divorce has been finalized for over two years. The entire process was quick for her, she says, because she approached her divorce like a business.
This is hurtful to me because it seems like she is implying that I am drawing mine out for the sake of feelings. My entire divorce is messy, and I am jealous of Jenna's divorce, but I don't think she has the right to judge how my process is going. I stay quiet about my proceedings, but Jenna continues to ask. How do I tell her to butt out of my business? I don't need her judging tones regarding my divorce. -- Butt Out, Dallas
DEAR BUTT OUT: Jenna probably doesn't realize that she's passing judgment on you. Chances are, she thinks she is helping you by urging you on. Sit down and tell her that her constant questioning makes you uncomfortable. Admit that your prolonged divorce proceedings make you miserable, and her comments make you feel judged. Ask her to lighten up.