DEAR HARRIETTE: I have always wanted to have a job that allows me to travel. I have found a student teaching program that would allow me to travel to Argentina and teach young students English. I was excited for this opportunity until I told my mother about the student teaching. She told me that I don't seem like I would be a good teacher yet, but that I would be ready in a few years.
This seriously crushed me, even though my mother emphasized that I would get to a good level one day. I didn't think I was unprepared for this venture, and my mother totally ruined my mood and is making me second-guess myself. Do I continue with my student teaching dream? My mother used to be a teacher herself. -- Going My Own Way, Cleveland
DEAR GOING MY OWN WAY: Who knows why your mother is a naysayer on this point? Rather than giving up, do some research. Contact the people who are organizing the program and learn about the qualifications. Assess with the organizers whether you are capable. Generally, these positions are filled by college students or recent college graduates. There is a very good chance you will do a fine job.
Your mother may be remembering her days as a teacher. She may even be unconsciously a bit envious about your opportunity. Love her and live your life.