DEAR HARRIETTE: Relationships never seemed to work for me. I don't really know why, but at some point or another, the guy and I would drift. After that, it'd be over. I'm tired of this pattern. I want a guy who stays and loves me unconditionally. About two months ago, I met a guy. He's tall, smart, thoughtful, has a great sense of humor, etc. -- all the components of the perfect guy. I'm more than sure that this is my "one." This is the guy who's going to stop the pattern and finally give me the love I've been searching for. He's also the guy who happens to be my sister's boyfriend. I hate that it had to come down to this, but I feel like it's fate. He was put in my sister's life only so that he could meet me, his true love. I don't want to go behind my sister's back, but he's everything I ever wanted. I deserve him! The only tough part is deciding who to tell first. I don't want to ruin my relationship with my sister, but fate is fate. I also need to tell this guy how I feel. I know he feels the same, I see it in his eyes. Do I tell my sister first, or my crush? How do I let her know gently? I don't want to hurt anyone, but my heart can't ignore how it feels. -- Matters of the Heart, Los Angeles
DEAR MATTERS OF THE HEART: Do not act on this crush. No good will come of it. He is not available to be your perfect guy.