DEAR HARRIETTE: The daughter of one of my neighbors is a drug addict. I know that's a strong thing to say about someone, but not only do I see it in all of her erratic behavior, I also have talked to her mother about it. The police have had to come to the building several times when she was high and acting out. It's kind of scary. Even though she is a young woman who should seem unassuming, she acts crazy when she's in a certain mindset. As I was entering my building the other day, she was there and tried to get me to let her in. It was awkward because obviously I know her. I couldn't figure out how to not let her in the door. After that, she banged on her parents' door for a half-hour. She comes banging at any time of the day or night. Other people have called the police when this happens. I don't really want to do that, but I'm not sure what to do. She brings a new definition to disturbing the peace. -- What to Do, Bronx, New York
DEAR WHAT TO DO: Start with the mother. Since she has confided in you in the past, go back to her and check in. Ask her how she is managing. This has got to be devastating for her. Find out what she does when her daughter comes barging into the building. Tell her that you are concerned about the safety of the building, and you want to know what she can suggest to help keep things calm.
Since the mom is in the middle of what probably feels like a firestorm, she may be marginally helpful. You are going to have to make the tough decision to report this young woman if things get too bad. If you get to the point where you feel unsafe, engage the police. By the way, you can do so anonymously.