DEAR HARRIETTE: My daughter's friend came over for a play date, and the two of them had a great time until it came time to eat. I had already been cautioned that she can be a picky eater, but this was ridiculous. I made a simple meal with baked chicken, pasta and kale. She looked at her plate -- stared at it really -- and basically refused to eat. I coaxed her into at least trying the chicken. She finally ate some of the pasta, but eventually she took out a cheese sandwich she had brought from home to eat. I know that children can be finicky, but I really thought this was extreme. My daughter wants to invite her back, but I'm afraid she will starve while she's in my care. How do I handle this? -- Can't Go Hungry, Detroit
DEAR CAN'T GO HUNGRY: Many children are picky eaters. In some cases, their parents enable them, and in others, no matter what you do, they just won't expand their palates. Work together with this child's parents. Talk to the mom or dad about her food choices and about what your meal planning will be. Ask for recommendations on what to serve her. Be willing to accept the cheese sandwich or other supplementary food items that the family may send with her. Your goal is not to be stressed out as you host this child. Don't take it personally that she rejects your meals. This is her issue. While you may be able to help her slightly break free from her limited menu choices, that is not your responsibility.