DEAR HARRIETTE: A group of my girlfriends have invited me to go on a trip with them to a spa. It sounds like a lot of fun, but I haven't done anything like that since I got married two years ago. I have spent pretty much every weekend with my husband, at least when he is at home. He sometimes travels for work, so I like to be at home when he is here. I feel strange considering going away with the girls now that I am married. Two of my girlfriends are also married, and they say they have been doing this trip for years. They say their husbands think it's a good idea. I haven't mentioned it to my husband yet. How do you think I should go about bringing it up? I have no idea what he will say. I don't want him to think that I don't want to be with him if I want to go on this trip. It is for a long weekend, by the way. -- Torn, Syracuse, New York
DEAR TORN: It is lovely that you are being considerate of your husband's feelings as you think about going on a weekend trip with your girlfriends. I also believe you are overthinking the situation. Many women take spa trips together. It can be a fun and relaxing activity. Rather than belaboring the point, tell your husband about the invitation from your friends. Say that you want to go, and ask for his blessing. You may be surprised at his response. Chances are great that he will be happy for you to enjoy your friends in that way.