DEAR HARRIETTE: I recently received a gift from a woman who attends my church. She told me it was a friendship gift, and I should not worry about giving her a gift in return. I did not plan to give her a gift in the first place. I am wondering if I should give her a gift because it is the right thing to do. I think she likes me as a potential boyfriend. She is nice and all, but not my type. What should I do? -- Puzzled, New York City
DEAR PUZZLED: The most important thing to do when you receive a gift is to say thank you and mean it. The cycle of giving is complete with acknowledgment. There is no requirement for giving a gift in exchange. Since you don't want to send mixed messages to this woman, simply thank her and let it end.