DEAR MISS MANNERS: A friend of mine is marrying a cad who is only after her money. Do I attend the wedding to support her, or stay away?
GENTLE READER: Whatever you think of the future Mr. Friend, you have presumably had your say and been overruled -- by the person who will bear the consequences if you, and not she, turn out to be correct.
If the support you intend to offer is of the “You’re going to regret this” variety, Miss Manners suggests you find an unrelated reason for not being able to attend. But as your friend would like you to be there, the preferred course of action is to do so, graciously.