DEAR MISS MANNERS: A few weeks ago, a friend of mine died. She had been ill a long time and her passing was expected. Her children were at the funeral, of course, along with several cousins from out of town.
About a week after the funeral I looked at the Facebook pages of these individuals, hoping to see some mention of my friend and perhaps some kind words about her.
I was surprised to see that the cousins referred to their visit to our city as "my vacation," with no reference to the funeral. They posted pictures showing themselves having a fine time clubbing, dancing and generally enjoying themselves.
My friend's children were shown with them, also enjoying themselves. I was taken aback by this. I hope my kids have the time of their lives, but not the same week as my funeral. What do you think?
GENTLE READER: This is the problem, Miss Manners finds, with posting pictures of one's social life for all to see. You can be caught doing so many unbecoming things that may (or may not) be taken out of context.
Mourning behavior comes in different forms and in different time frames. That your friend's children were not constantly somber during the week after her death is human nature. That they were caught looking that way is the nature of social media.