DEAR MISS MANNERS: I have a friend who calls or comes by only when she has no one else to hang out with.
We've known each other for 13 years and have gone out together only two times that I can recall. She asks me to do things with her, then makes plans with other people and doesn't even let me know that she changed her plans, so I get stuck sitting around trying to come up with something to do all day.
I want to say something, but I don't know how to say it without sounding hurtful or resentful. What do you suggest?
GENTLE READER: "I'm so sorry, I'm busy." If you have gone out only twice in 13 years, Miss Manners assures you that this answer is unlikely to have an adverse affect on either your social calendar or what you generously call a friendship.