DEAR MISS MANNERS: I have always been taught that when attending a shower, if you win a prize playing a game, this prize is to be given to the person for whom the shower is given. Yes or no?
GENTLE READER: No. You do such a person dishonor by assuming that she would want to have the rules of consideration toward guests and of fair play suspended on her behalf.
Miss Manners considers that the best way to handle this peculiar notion is for anyone who might countenance it to postpone those shower-prompting events, marriage and childbirth, until she has outgrown petty selfishness.
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