DEAR ABBY: My husband's older brother comes over every few weeks to do his laundry. While he's here, he helps himself to my snacks. My husband's younger cousin also comes over every now and then to do his laundry and eat (at our expense or my labor).
We are better off financially than both of them, but I think the way they mooch off us is inconsiderate. My husband says it's normal and that's how family is. But we don't do that in my family, nor do we arrive anywhere empty-handed. Are his family using us, or is this normal? -- TIRED OF IT
DEAR TIRED: It's normal for your husband's family. Make an attempt to schedule these clothes-washing sessions at your convenience, and stash your snacks someplace you know the relatives won't find them.