DEAR ABBY: I am a working mother of two, married for 20 years. I go to great lengths to keep a Google calendar updated, which my husband has access to any time he wishes to see it. The problem is, he rarely looks at it. Instead, he asks me daily, "What have we got going on today?" or, "What time is (blank)?" or, "Do we have anything happening the weekend of (blank)?" Sometimes he texts me while I'm working to ask what time one of our children needs to be picked up.
Abby, it drives me crazy! At any hour of any day he is one click away from all this information. It makes me feel like I'm his secretary. I have told him how it makes me feel numerous times to no avail. How can I get him to use the calendar and stop treating me like his personal secretary? -- FED UP IN THE SOUTH
DEAR FED UP: Here's how: Do not react in anger. When he asks these questions, your response should be: "I don't know, Honey. I'm sure it's on the calendar. Why don't you look it up?"