DEAR ABBY: When we go to church with our daughters, ages 9 and 11, we are greeted at the door by an usher in his 70s. He has told our 9-year-old several times that he's going to marry her when she grows up. She doesn't know what to say. My husband and I don't like it. What should we do? -- DUMBSTRUCK IN THE EAST
DEAR DUMBSTRUCK: Tell the usher privately that his comment is not appreciated. Discuss it with the minister afterward, if necessary. Your daughter is a nice girl, but I wouldn't blame her if she told him, "If you're still alive and breathing by the time I'm grown up, I'll consider it."