DEAR ABBY: I am deeply disturbed to have learned after having been married to "John" for four years, that he never divorced his last wife. He insists they are legally divorced because she abandoned him 10 years ago.
I feel betrayed, used and abused, and I don't know what to do. We've built a home and combined our finances. I can't even pay bills without him. If I leave, I lose everything I have established. What do I do? Please help me feel adequate again. -- BETRAYED IN THE SOUTH
DEAR BETRAYED: Talk to an attorney immediately! If you were not aware that he wasn't divorced when you married him, he has committed fraud as well as bigamy. You should not lose everything you have established; in fact, he'll be lucky if he isn't prosecuted.