DEAR ABBY: My co-worker and I have been seeing each other for a while now. We are both married. I am separated -- my husband moved out -- while "Chip" is still at home with his wife and kids. He says he loves me and plans on leaving his family.
I have decided I don't want him after all. I have told him to stay with his wife, but Chip keeps wanting to "talk." We see each other at work every day. It's uncomfortable around co-workers.
I've been looking for another job (for other reasons). I feel ashamed, and I don't want to be the "other woman." I don't know whether to wait for him or just walk out. -- LOST IN ARIZONA
DEAR LOST: Chip knows you are ambivalent, which is why he wants to keep talking to you. If you meant what you wrote, that you do not want to be the other woman, then end the affair once and for all and -- as you put it -- just walk out.