DEAR ABBY: My son is 8 and lost his dad a year ago. His dad was never very involved in his life, even though our son begged for his attention. His dad's sister, "Jillian," is a children's coach and very tough and hardcore. She has tried to have a relationship with my son, but he is pulling away from her and doesn't want to do anything with her.
When she asks to do something with him, he refuses. I have tried to prevent friction by telling her we already have plans. It finally came to a head when she accused me of trying to keep him from his dad's family. When I told her the truth, that her personality is too strong for my son, she replied that it's not a good enough reason.
Jillian is an alcoholic. She drinks no matter what time of day it is, so I'm OK with the idea that my son doesn't want to go anywhere with her. How do I handle this? -- TRYING TO PREVENT FRICTION
DEAR TRYING: When Jillian approaches you again, be as upfront with her about your own reason for not wanting your son to be with her as you were about his. You are right to worry about his safety because he would be at risk if he rode with a person who "drinks no matter what time of day it is." And don't let anyone talk you out of it.