DEAR ABBY: I was talking to my daughter about what I would want for a birthday present since I have plenty of "stuff" and I am trying to get rid of it. Could I suggest that instead of giving me something, she come and take something -- or even two somethings? What do you think? -- ANN IN UPSTATE NEW YORK
DEAR ANN: I think it's a novel idea for someone who is downsizing, and if you and your daughter have similar taste, she would appreciate it. Start by saying, "It's better to give than to receive ..."