DEAR ABBY: My 22-year-old son told me he had a fight with his girlfriend. Am I allowed to ask him what it was about, or if they have resolved the problem? -- CURIOUS MOM IN MONTANA
DEAR CURIOUS MOM: When your son mentioned the spat, that would have been the logical time to ask what it was about. If you start probing now -- after the fact -- it could be construed as nosiness. If he's still seeing the girlfriend, it's safe to assume the problem was resolved -- so keep your mouth shut, your eyes open and let him solve his relationship issues without involving yourself in them.