DEAR ABBY: My husband and I moved into a new home a few months ago. On our first night in our new residence, an emotionally disturbed relative came over and caused a scene which resulted in the police being called to have the person removed from our home. Since then, we have been shunned by our neighbors.
I was hoping for a friendly welcome, but I haven't gotten so much as a "hello," let alone a plate of cookies.
How should we handle this? I realize that because of the police incident, the neighbors may think we have domestic issues -- or worse. I don't know how to improve the bad impression that was created -- especially since it was not our fault. Please help. -- WAITING FOR THE WELCOME WAGON IN INDIANAPOLIS
DEAR WAITING: If you see a neighbor, smile, say hello and introduce yourself. As to "waiting for the welcome wagon," in many areas the custom of welcoming newcomers into the neighborhood has died out. So why not take the initiative, bake a couple of batches of cookies or buy some candy for the neighbors on either side of you and immediately across the street. Write a short note to be included with each, saying, "We apologize for not doing this sooner, but my husband and I were embarrassed by what happened the night we moved in. A relative caused the disturbance. We are very sorry you were inconvenienced. Sincerely, ___"
That should help you break the ice.