DEAR ABBY: I am a program director for young professionals. There are 75 students in my group. Many of them get married in our program and invite me to their weddings.
Should I always go and give the same type of gift, or give a gift based on how well I know the individual?
-- SEEKING "I DO" DIPLOMACY
DEAR SEEKING: An invitation is not an obligation. Buying wedding gifts for many couples every year could take a serious bite out of someone's income. That's why you should attend only the weddings of students to whom you feel a closeness, and base your gift on how much you can afford.
For those couples whose weddings you choose not to attend, send a lovely card with a note of congratulations along with your regrets.