DEAR ABBY: I recently learned that the man I've known as "Dad" for 38 years is not my natural father. I now have the name and address of my biological father and would like to contact him for family medical information. Would a letter to him requesting that information be out of line? -- WANTS TO KNOW
DEAR WANTS: It is not out of line to request important medical information that might affect you and your family. Contact your father discreetly, because he may have family that doesn't know about you. A word of caution, however: Don't set yourself up for disappointment if he doesn't want to pursue a relationship with you.