DEAR ABBY: My son is being married in September. It is a first marriage for both him and his fiancee. They are professionals and already have most everything they need to begin their life together.
Would it be appropriate to say they are registered at a bank or credit union rather than local retailers? Help with a down payment for their first home would be far more useful to them than three toasters. -- GROOM'S MOTHER IN OGDEN, UTAH
DEAR MOTHER: If you are planning to include that request with the wedding invitations, the answer is no. However, if you are asked specifically what the young couple needs or would like to have, then it is socially acceptable to respond in the way that you would like.