DEAR ABBY: I have a close friend I'll call "June," who was married to a man named "Jeff" who lied to her. He was an elder in the church for several years and is retired from the military.
It all started when Jeff had a stroke. He told June he needed to set up a bank account for her in case he had another one, but he kept putting it off. So June went on the Internet to research some information to make it happen, and got the shock of her life. She learned that Jeff is still married to his previous wife. She contacted the pastor and they confronted him; Jeff denied everything. (June has since gotten an annulment.)
The house belongs to June, but Jeff refuses to leave. He stalks her. Everywhere she goes, he shows up. He keeps telling her she's going to have him in her life whether she likes it or not. She tries to ignore him, but he constantly approaches and confronts her.
Now the pastor is trying to get them back together. When she says she wants nothing to do with him, the pastor tells him she's being "uncooperative."
June took the legal route. A judge has ordered Jeff to pay off June's student loans, which he hasn't done. He still hasn't moved out of the house, and his boss thinks they're still married. What should she do in this situation? Sell the house? Or get a restraining order? -- CONFUSED IN NEW MEXICO
DEAR CONFUSED: June should inform her attorney that the bigamist she married is flouting the judge's directive. Then she should do as her lawyer instructs -- including selling the house and taking out a restraining order if that's what her legal counsel advises. And if that doesn't solve her problem, your friend may have to relocate to another community because the man may be dangerous.