DEAR ABBY: A woman I'll call "Millie" has been like a second mother to me. Millie has been with "Jack" for a long time. When I was little, Jack fondled me, but I never told anyone.
Seven years ago, Jack was convicted of child molestation. He has just been released from prison.
I'm being married in October, and Millie plans to bring Jack to my wedding. Should I tell people with small children that he's a pedophile, or should I ask Millie not to bring him? She would prefer I not tell anyone that he's a pedophile.
My fiance doesn't want him there, and I'm having a hard time deciding what to do. Any help you could offer would be greatly appreciated. -- BRIDE-TO-BE, BERWICK, PA.
DEAR BRIDE-TO-BE: Allow me to make the decision for you. Tell your "second mother" that Jack victimized you when you were little, and he's not welcome at your wedding, because neither you nor your fiance wants him there. Child molesters are supposed to avoid places where there are small children, and he probably shouldn't be there, anyway.
Now that he's out of prison, Jack should be listed on your state's sex-offender Web site. However, to make absolutely certain he doesn't take advantage of any children in your family, their parents should be warned. Had your parents been warned, you might have been spared.