DEAR ABBY: I have been married for 17 years. I recently found slips of paper with women's names and telephone numbers among receipts my husband asked me to file. When I asked him who these women were, he claims he doesn't know and I should shut up.
He frequently leaves the house two to four hours at a time. Also, money is missing from our joint bank account.
Abby, he swears he is not cheating. Is he? -- WANTING TO KNOW THE TRUTH IN RHODE ISLAND
DEAR WANTING: Only he can answer that. Whether or not the problem is another woman, something is up, and he's certainly not leveling with you. Offer him the option of talking things out with a marriage counselor. If he refuses, talk to a lawyer about protecting yourself before any more assets disappear from your joint account.